More.
What the hell is that? The MORE? We are always looking for "the more." Sometimes, it's a very good thing that we do so. But sometimes, we spin our wheels over something, some dream, or someone that isn’t worthy of it. And maybe… “isn’t worthy” isn’t a fair statement. Maybe… just maybe the actual statement should be that, “Someone isn't ready.”
I think in 97 out of 100 cases, that’s the truth. You’re ready. But something or someone else isn't. Or, you're the one who's not ready. In my 44 years of experience and wisdom (take that with a grain of salt), I can tell you that you will never, ever, EVER convince someone that they are ready (for whatever "it" may be). People need to come to their own truths in their own time.
I know you've seen it over and over again in your own life and situations. Just watch a toddler. They display the most innocent of human behavior. Watch how they learn. How they test... over and over again. Until they figure out the way.
It's no different for adults. We just typically take the thing we're trying to figure out and roll it around in our minds, and in our actions, or lack thereof. Sometimes it takes us a long freakin' time to reconcile something.
So, regardless of which side of the equation you are on, whether you're the one who's ready and waiting on a tangible or intangible counterpart to catch up, or you're the one who isn't ready and needs to act, you have two choices.
1. Act. Be patient and wait; or
2. Walk away.
Neither is wrong. Initially.
But, one of those choices may prove to be wrong over time. And, only YOU can determine that. Don’t let outside sources, media, friends, conversations, what your mother says, or what your locker room buddy says determine the course of your action.
YOU CHOOSE. You are the ruler of your own life.
Do not put your decisions about your life on anyone else. It is not her, him, them, it, the kids, the job, etc… Don’t blame circumstance as a reason for bailing, not committing or giving up on a person, an action to be taken, or goal to achieve. YOU CHOOSE. Always. From the moment you choose to get out of bed, pour your coffee (or not), and move through your day, you make hundreds of choices. Take responsibility for your own actions.
Your life. Your choice. Your priorities. If it’s important, you’ll find a way. If it’s not, you’ll find an excuse. Simple as that.
Whether it’s fitness, relationships, your job, your marriage, your next date ... you choose. You have to live with the consequences.
And, there are ALWAYS consequences. Sometimes they’re good. Sometimes, notsomuch. I'm channeling my inner-Einstein and telling you that every action has a reaction. Although you cannot control others' reactions or feelings, you can use your best efforts to achieve a positive outcome to whatever situation you're in. What you prioritize in your life will most likely become your most successful endeavors; whether that means performing well at your job, your hobby, your love life or any other venture.
Just remember, you are in control of your feelings, emotions and decisions. Choose wisely. But remember to actually choose. Don't sit in the back seat of your own life. Move up front, grab the wheel and steer the direction you want to go! Or, you may find yourself left in the dust as the things, dreams, or people you value most drive away from you.